You wanted sex, you get love.
As an expert in Tinder dating, truisms, and self-affirmation, I find solace in sorting my thoughts through writing. Join me as I reflect on personal experiences, friendships, encounters with strangers, and the complexities of relationships. From fleeting acquaintances to profound loves, I delve into the dynamics of being a friend, daughter, colleague, and woman. Through sharing my observations, experiences, and fantasies, I aim to reveal my vulnerabilities, showcase my strengths, and find catharsis in expressing myself.
1: Reheated Food and Love Affairs
Delicious Leftovers: Just as reheating lasagna, potato gratin, or moussaka can enhance their flavors, one wonders if desire in love affairs can also be more fulfilling when it’s not entirely fresh. Could the passage of time, the familiarity of shared experiences, and the absence of initial awkwardness pave the way for complete pleasure?
2: Revisiting Past Lovers
Seeking Distraction: In moments when the pain of a recent breakup is still raw but the need for distraction is overpowering, some may choose to reconnect with past lovers. Sharing anecdotes from personal encounters, including a failed hometown romance and an incident that made me a laughing stock, I explore the motivations behind revisiting old flames.
3: Lessons Learned
A Case of Repressed Memories: Despite the less-than-stellar experiences with past lovers, I find myself successfully repressing the negative memories. However, the aftermath of these encounters led to self-doubt and introspection. Reflecting on the reasons behind my decision to resurrect these affairs, I question the wisdom of such choices.
4: The Unwise and the Unenjoyable
Avoiding Reheating Disasters: Not all past encounters are worth revisiting. I recount the story of a person deeply infatuated with me, highlighting the unfulfilling and uncomfortable nature of our three encounters. Reheating this particular love affair proved to be unappetizing, akin to the disappointment of reheated spaghetti bolognese.
5: The Ingredients of Acquaintance
Recognizing Toxic Reheats: The success or failure of revisiting past lovers often depends on the initial ingredients of the relationship. If the first experience ended painfully, it is likely to end similarly on subsequent attempts, leaving one party with guilt and the other feeling discarded. Like certain foods that become toxic when reheated, some relationships are best left in the past.
Possibly it depends on the ingredients of the acquaintance. If it ended the first time painfully, it would end badly this time too. One of the two will suffer. One of them will have a guilty conscience and still leave with the sweet taste of intimacy. But the other part will be left lying, thrown back into the bitterness of days gone by. The sex is good because it’s familiar, but it’s just the remnant of every recipe that you thought was easy at first and planned as a sinful dinner. Leftovers will be forgotten in a Tupperware in the depths of the freezer. Careful! There is food that is even toxic when reheated (mushrooms, spinach,…)
What do we learn from this? Reheat your lasagna, but enjoy it alone.
